I'm so excited! Well, sure, HE'S excited, but he probably has no idea how excited this makes me, too!
After over three months of getting fired and struggling to make a go of his own business, he's finally gotten himself a new job! The pay is better, it's closer to home than his last job, the benefits are better, it's awesome!
But, shhhhhhhhhh! Don't tell him, I'm so very excited because he'll be out of my hair for 5 days a week, 10 hours a day! Yippee!!!!!!!!!!!!
This question is for the gals: Have you ever had to deal with something like this where your husband/partner/boyfriend lost his job and always seemed to be underfoot? I can hardly get anything done around here with him here. I'm SO much more comfortable with him gone.
This question is for anyone: Have you, or do you know someone who has lost his/her job during this recession? Have you been successful at finding a new job? I know that times are so very hard right now because my son is STILL looking for work. I know it's a strain on everyone involved... believe me, I KNOW!
This was the first time in my husband's life that he actually had to LOOK for work. He had never been to an interview before, believe it or not! He was hired directly from Tech school, then promoted, promoted again, given better offers, etc. but never once had to be interviewed for work. I was floored when he told me that. But, he made it through a telephone interview, then an in-person interview and is now on his way home with his massive benefits package from his new employer.
YIPPEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (You think I should try to show a little more enthusiasm for him when he walks in the door? Maybe I'm being too nonchalant about the whole thing. sleep)
[question posted by mentalward]
responses and comments:
congratulations that's good for your hubby and of course to and your family that at last he found a good paying job and more on that nearer to your home. In my humble opinion you should show not just a little enthusiasm but it should a full support to him so that in every move he make he always think that your waiting for him and trust him that he will work his job better so that the last employer experience would not happen again.. happy [jersey86]
Thanks, jersey. He got home, roses in hand! He was pretty much an absolute BEAR to live with for the past 3 months, so I suppose he's trying, in his way, to make up for that. He's so excited, he's making dinner tomorrow night. My sons come over every Wednesday to spend the day and he's been very aloof, for the most part, since he lost his job. I knew he was feeling bad and angry at himself for losing his last job, but he spent a large amount of time taking it out on me and my sons (his stepsons). He is so psyched! I'm very happy for him, of course. He has a HUGE sense of obligation (although he really doesn't know how to express it very well) and losing that job was a tremendous blow, not only to his self-esteem, but also because he was feeling like a failure. I put up with a lot of crap that he was dishing out for 3 months, believe me! I held my tongue more times than I can remember, because I knew why he was acting that way. There were only a couple of times when I had to "let him have it" for acting like a jackass. I've shown him nothing but support for the most part. I encouraged him throughout this job interview process. I literally dressed him for his face-to-face interview because he had no idea what to expect, or what they would expect. He even thanked me for making him wear a suit and tie! Now, he's telling me that, with this new health insurance package, we can go anywhere in the world and get medical treatment... like we really will, sure. I'd LIKE to, but I won't be holding my breath. I'm just going to enjoy his great mood. It's been quite awhile since I've seen it! [mentalward]
I know how it is! My ex had his own business and when business was slow he'd be underfoot--or, more likely, on the couch. I couldn't vacuum or clean cos the tv was always on. I was so happy when he was busy! Oh sure, I loved him and enjoyed having him around but my whole routine was just destroyed. I'm so happy your husband got a job!! happy [dragon54u]
Oh Marti, that's WONDERFUL!! Wow!! That's truly awesome!! That's the greatest news I've heard in a long time!! If you were right here right now, I'd give you one big hug and then do the "Happy Dance" with you!! You've got to feel so much better and much more secure with your future!! Man! That's awesome!! I'm really really happy for you!! YIPPEEEEEEEE!! [CatsandDogs]
Congrats on his new job. My hubby has lost his job before. But I don't remember him being under foot. I suppose he was, but is was a while ago. All I do remember is him trying very hard to find more work. [ersmommy1]
I'm very happy to hear the good news. Now hopefully, things can return back to "normal" for you and your family. Congrats to your husband. Hang in there girl. cdrxo [commanderxo]
I'm glad your husband found a job and i know that is good for you. My boyfriend was living with me at my parents house and he hasn't been able to find a job since October and its been rough. He works on and off with a friend of his when he needs helps and he gets a decent amount of money to buy groceries sometimes pay his car insurance and whatever else is needed. I lost y job February 12 and have gone on 5 interviews and no luck yet. I know its hard to get a job right now because so many people are looking for jobs so when I'm applying for a job there are so many resumes filling the persons desk they really don't know what to do so I'm stuck here with no job and trying to make the best of it. I am getting unemployment but it isn't enough to pay all my bills as me and my boyfriend have medical bills right now. He was in the hospital a lot due to having seizures and he had no insurance so its hard and we have around 6000 in bills to pay and neither one of us have jobs. [lologirl2021]
Well good for your husband and his new job. I know this will be alot less stressful for you to. I enjoy time by myself, like 23 hours a day.lol! I still am doing some personal training but even that is not much because with the economy the way it is people do not put out money for non essentials. [muscles4me]
You really sound jubilant about his new job!happy I guess it's because you know he'll be 'out of your hair' for so long each day. Really though, I'm glad he's finally found employment. It's so hard now days to find a decent job since so many people are out of work. Do be a little happy when he comes in, but not enough he might think you are trying to get rid of him. lol [Barb42]
As i am still a student i can't say i have been in this situation before and neither was my girlfriend. My parents have had steady jobs so they are out of the question as well, and i honestly don't know other persons to have had this problem. I will say that i am very happy for you for this, not only because you wanted more time for you and for your needs and you finally got them, but also because this is a step forward for both your husband and your family as a whole, because with better benefits come better conditions of life. [elitess]
oh most definitely. my hubby lost his job 3 years ago and it took forever for him to find a new job and it seemed that i had no peace when he was at home too. congrats to hubby on his new job though! [cher913]
Well I guess congratulations go out to you AND your husband! He gets to make some money and you get to not lose your mind!! I know exactly what you are going through! My husband has always been a job hopper, but a few months ago, he landed a really good sales job, and got out of Home Improvement sales, hopefully for good this time. The worst part about his jobs in the past was that when they slowed down, he ended up being home all the time, and frankly, I was going nuts! He did not really understand why I wanted him out of the house during the day. It is certainly not because I don't love him or I wanted to have an affair or anything, but I just don't get a darn thing done with him in the way! He wants to sleep for hours and watch TV and eat, and I have housework to do, so I don't want him just sitting there while I'm working. Of course he helps if I ask, but I would rather he just go out and work and let me have my daily routine to myself. Too much time is not a good thing always! I hope your son finds a job, too by the way. Times are really tough, but there are jobs out there if you have some patience and luck. [ljbinkop]
Hey mentalward! Congratulations! You really are a lucky woman! That is so great that your hubby got a better job after only 3 months! I know to you it seemed like alot longer, but I'm sure it was worth the wait! So now I hope all will go well and you can finally breathe again and start to relax! You can get back to some routine and be happy that he will be gone all day! I know how happy you are! You really are lucky that he didn't have to spend that much time looking around for a job! He must be really good at what he does! So now take a break and get yourself back together again! [Opal26]
Hey MW! What's this about Paxil? I took that for about 7 years! It didn't help me, but why did you have a lawsuit against it? I'm almost afraid to hear the answer! I did hear some stuff about it! I've been off it for a little over 1 year now! Should I be worried? [Opal26]
congrats!! yep when my hubby was out of work he drove me nuts because i coudlnt get anything done with out being interrupted which when he was working i only dealt with it when he was home so i could get stuff done during his work hours but when he was home 24/7 it was annoying lol.. my bro got out of work in november and still hasnt found anything.. no one is hiring and when they are there are a million to one ratio on how many people apply for the job [moonlitmagikchild]
That is wonderful. I am so happy for you. And it's okay to show some enthusiasm to him about the job. We won't tell him how excited you are. lol [AmbiePam]
Congratulations. You must have had a tough time in the past months, and the qualification of his background and confidence finally gained him the job. Something to celebrate, and a lot of new challenges for him, as well. It take some time to be adapted to the new environment. He needs your continuous support. and god blesses you. For those still looking for job, the current issue of Readers' Digest has several articles on the issues. Opportunities are there for those optimistic and dilligent people. [zhuhuifen46]
Congratulations!!! I know how you feel. When my husband is home its like another child. He is good around the house, but I am used to my quite time and with him here it can get loud. He did learn to finally use the computer. He hads been on facebook nonstop for about a month reconnecting with his family members from Peru. Thank goodness we have more than one computer in the house or we would be fighting. But anyway I glad your hubby got a job. Now if only mine would get a bite...lol. [stacienicole]
Congrats!!!! Yippee!!!!! WooHooo!!!!! Thats is some great news. Once my hubby retired, it took me sometime to get used to having im underfoot. Now that he is gone, I would give anything to have im underfoot again. The job market is really tight right now, I am happy for you. [Polly1]
I am so happy that he has found a job, yes it happened to me several times and I didn't like my husband under foot and was happy when he got out of the house. It is very hard getting a job in the recession, is very hard, he is lucky [winterose]
Hi Mental, I couldn't be more happy for you. I know the hell you've been through and I'm so happy for all the benefits and everything. I hope the two of you are able to celebrate tonight. My heart feels sick because my hubby has been out of work going on two years and I am slowly coming to the realization that he may never work again. He just turned 57 and that alone may keep him from working at the kind of work he's so good at. Well, I don't want to put a damper on your great news. So congrats and relax with a new future ahead.xoxoxo leenie [leenie50]
Thank you, leenie, for those kind thoughts. We're both very excited that he was able to get a great job so relatively fast in today's market. He had submitted his resume to every free job recruiting site we could find. I think that's one reason he was able to find such a great job so fast. I feel for you! I feel for you both! I know the kind of frustration that goes along with not finding work when you're willing and able to. I've been through that myself awhile back. If you don't mind me asking, what does your husband do? I know how age can affect, not only our ability to work, but also the willingness of employers to hire you! Age has worked against me, too. Has your husband tried to learn new skills? I'm trying to encourage my son to learn everything he can over the internet and from the library... to learn any and everything he can, just to broaden his knowledge base in order to open more doors for himself. I have been working on building a website of my own to sell hand-made things; good quality hand-made things. My son is great with his hands and has created some very beautiful smaller clay figures to use as pendants for necklaces. Once my website is up and running (hopefully, soon) we're going to try to sell his things. But, I've also tried to encourage him to learn website design. There's a lot on the internet where you can learn for free. That's where I learned how to do it myself. Is your husband good with his hands? Is he any good at gardening? I'm going to be starting my own business this year of rooting cuttings taken from trees and bushes, then selling them to plant nurseries. It's really easy to do because once the cuttings are made and they're in the rooting medium, they pretty much take care of themselves until they're ready to sell. Maybe your husband could give that a try? I bought a program that supposedly has a list of nurseries that buy rooted cuttings in bulk, but I haven't looked it over yet. If your husband is interested, please let me know and I can share that information with him. I can't stand to see anyone looking for work, especially these days with the price of everything rising except for salaries. My youngest son is in that position and takes any odd-jobs he can find. He told me he'd love to help me with my rooted cutting business and, hopefully, I'll be able to hire him full-time soon. I've just recently potted up 10 boxwood cuttings that I successfully rooted and I'm really psyched! That's why I think I'm ready to start doing this on a much larger scale now. Small, one-year-old rooted cuttings can sell for $3.00 to $5.00 if you sell them yourself and most of that is profit! I can sell my rooted cuttings to nurseries for around $2.00 apiece and, since all I have to pay for is the pot (I make my own compost) I'm still going to make money. I decided to try this out of desperation, mainly, because I didn't know how long my husband would be out of work. But, even with him getting this new job, I still want to go ahead with it to be able to put some extra money in the bank. It's just a thought, though. I always try to help when I can, especially with my extended 'family' here at myLot. Best wishes and good luck to you and your husband! [mentalward]
Hmmmm.confused Did i just remembered you had a discussion about your hubby that he lost his job? that's great news and probably things are gonna work out after all. sleepi guess he never experience going through the trenches and test from interviewers. it's a real blessing that is, he should be proud of himself. I mean, maybe because of the crisis, the company had to be choosy with applicants. so lucky that he choose your husband mentalward. i hope he stays there long enough for both of you to benefit. have a great day.happy [Greeneagle24]
Thank you, Greeneagle. He's very excited about this new job and I know he's learned a lesson about putting everything he has into it. I know he'll do a great job, having just gone over 3 months without much income at all. [mentalward]
It is very good news. Congrats! Hope he is able to continue here and get the good salary. At times world comes tumbling down. But everything will be OK> [subha12]
Many congratulations to your husband on his new job. With the economy in tatters right now, this is good news indeed. My partner has a job right now, but has been looking for something more in line with what he's trained to do. He applied for something that would have been VERY suitable, got a phone interview, and then got called in for a face to face interview. They're supposed to let him know by the end of this week whether he got the job or not, but he spoke to the people who are being references for him, and apparently, they haven't had a call yet, so he's very discouraged and down, thinking that he didn't get the job. I don't have the heart to tell him that he's lucky he has a job, because he's depressed enough already. Congratulations again! [angelwhispers30]
Oh, how I know what your partner is going through! I've waited for that telephone call many times myself! I wish him all the luck in the world! Having a job that you love doing is almost as important as having a job, period! It's good that he has one in today's economy but I can certainly understand why he would want one he is ultimately suited for. Going to work with a smile on your face is SO much nicer than just going to work. Thank you for the sentiment about my husband's job. He's so very psyched right now! He's been busy doing all the little things around the house that he's put off doing, most likely because of his depression. He finished putting up a ceiling fan in my office (where there wasn't even wiring for a ceiling light) at close to midnight last night! He had so much energy he didn't know what to do with it! LOL Then, this morning, he tells me he's received another freelance job... get this... FROM HIS OLD BOSS, the one who fired him! So, instead of him earning what he was earning while working there, which was somewhere around $35.00/hour, he's doing this work for $45.00/hour. Ah, payback is sweet, huh? lol Again, good luck to your partner! Tell him, if he doesn't get this job, that only means that there's another, BETTER one in his future. I'm sure he'll find what he's looking for. (I'll keep my fingers crossed that he gets the job he's interviewed for! ) [mentalward]
No in my life i never gone to office or joined any job iam a webmaster and blogger and work from home.My earnings are more than my friends who work in big companies iam self employeed and iam the boss of own house. some days back my friend lost his job but now he was employeed in a new company and i feel better for hime. And congratulations to you too.............Keep Mylotting [chimrani]
Thank you, chimrani. We're both very happy about this new job. I used to work from home, myself, for about 20 years. I was a typesetter, proofreader and copy editor. I worked as a sub-contractor for several different printing companies. However, that work ended when, one by one, the companies I worked with began to send that work overseas where it was less expensive for them to have it done. It didn't take long before I was just sitting here, wondering what in the world had just happened! Then, I found a new job doing legal transcription from home. It was only part-time because of my health problems, but when my mother got sick and died, I had to stop working altogether because I had so many other things to do as executor of her estate, moving her belongings out of her apartment and also moving to another State with my husband. It was all so very stressful that I did not have the time or energy to work even part time. Now, my health has declined even further so I am unable to do any lucritive kind of work. But, I did love it when I could work from home full-time! Congratulations to you, too, for making a successful career for yourself! [mentalward]
Hopefully this will help things get better at home as well! Congrats to him. I usually like it when my man gets laid off from work. I know thats bad, but he works third shift and then sleeps all day. I hate that! So when he is laid off I love the fact that we can go to bed together and we have all day to spend together. I don't get much done when he is around but that don't bother me I would rather spend my time with him. I can't wait till this week is over because he is laid off again next week! I shouldn't be so excited because our bills do fall behind, but I just can't help it. I love it when he is home!! [messageme]
I sort of know what you have been going through.. I was keeping up on your discussions. That's why I say hopefully your home life will get better. With him feeling better about himself about getting a good job it should up his spirits and hopefully won't drink as much either. Usually men are hard on themselves when they don't feel like they are the one supporting the family. I think after three months of him home I would go nuts too! happy Or the time would fly and I still wouldn't want him to go back. I don't know...the longest he was on lay off at a time was 6 weeks and that went way too fast and I still didn't want him to go back, but finacially I knew he had too. He was really down on himself during that time to because he didn't feel like he was providing for the family like he thinks he should have been. I told him being home is providing in taking care of the kids. thats good enough for me! [messageme]
Good for you both; I have been out of work since September, and came close; Had folks talk to me and all, but nothing bite yet. I haven't given up and reading this makes me glad. I wish ya'll the best. Peace. [Savvynlady]
I am glad he has been able to pull himself around and win the job. My wife hates me being under her feet when I am at home 'working' or not. I keep mentioning retirement and she keeps telling me we need the high income, or that I will get bored etc.... but I know what she really means. wink Best wishes to you both. [Scoop_Dogg]
Yes. I was in that position once. And I am thankful that I stumbled upon online earnings. It supplemented my income and expenses during that time. A very dark time indeed. I would have continued to make money online if not for the downfall of autosurfs. All no thanks to StormPay! angry Yes, I found a new job after a long time. And finally settled down in my current one which I am very grateful for. It is good that he has got a job now. And a better one compared to the last one at that! At least now, you do not have to worry too much about money. Not for quite a while too! lol [ahgong]
Good for him!! I am happy that things are working out for the two of you. Maybe that was somewhat of the problem he was having with the drinking. I hope this really works out for you two! I hope that you really were there for him. [Thoroughrob]
Well, until about a month ago or so my husband and I had the same days off which was Sunday and Monday. We still have Sundays off together but he finally has the weekends off now. I used to go stir crazy having him around and felt like I was never able to get anything done just that I wanted to do. Yes, I could come in here and post in myLot but not like I can sometimes when he is not around. So even though I miss having the luxury of having him around on Mondays, I also enjoy the Peace and Quiet and time for myself as well. And by the way... Congratulations on your husband finding a Job again. Sounds like this will be a Big help for you both for sure. [KrauseHome]
Heartiest Congratulations to you and your husband!!! I think you can now have a relaxing breath. A husband at home is a very tough situation. Your husband must be in mental depression and so more and more irritating person. I think this will be a more of mental releif rather than other releifs. [dropofrain]
Congrats!!! That's awesome for you guys!!! And yes, I know how hard it is to get things done! On the weekends, my husband is home too and it's almost impossible. When I take a day off during the week he always wants to also, but I want time to myself! [reinydawn]
Congrats to the hubby on the new job. Seems it's going to be good for both of you...lol. It is sad how many people are out of work now. I hope they can all find jobs! I've never had to deal with this. I think together time is good for relationships, but each person also needs alone time! [sunnflr]
Wonderful, wonderful news! Congratulations to you both! I completely understand your desire to have some time to yourself to get things done. My hubby lost his job when my baby was only six months old. He received a three month redundancy payout, so he decided to stay at home and have a long holiday. I was working my job at home at the time to try and make ends meet, and doing absolutely everything, while he sat and played Computer Games day in and day out. When he finally got a new job, I think I danced in celebration for several weeks! [penny64]
O.k. so first off I totally get the whole "he's under foot and driving me nuts" bit my hubby was out of work before and after 3 weeks I was ready to scream. This job he has now switches him back and forth from days to nights and that's just as bad to me. During the day I have a way of doing things and then here he comes trying to "help" or just wanting to talk and everything gets all messed up. As for the job loss bit honestly everyone around me is losing tier jobs and/or homes.It's scary I watched the water company truck come through my neighborhood the other day and he stopped at nearly every third house with 3 day shut off notices. We have been squirreling back every penny we can and keeping the deep freezer stocked just in case. I am happy to hear that things are looking up for you and hope it all stays on an upward path. Freedomhappy [freedomg]
Hey friend I was just wondoring when is his first day back at work? Are you gonna do the Snoopy Happy Dance? Let me know what time and I will set my timer and join you in the Happy Dance! [muscles4me]
My friend lost his Construction job. I work in a restaurant, and people are going to eat, so we have not been hit as hard by the financial crisis as some other industries have. My efforts to start my own company doing odd jobs and other chores for people have pretty much been put on hold for the time being, though. I guess time will tell what happens. [goldeneagle]
hi mentalward, sorry for the late answer to your discussion but its great to hear your husband again does have a job. Its highest time when I see what you have been through since he had lost this other one, with all his meddling with that invention that will never bring in money and food on the table and also his drinking beer instead of seeing to raking money in and if it be with helping others with yard work in the neighbourhood or with decorating a place if he is good at that or whatever Crafts he can use. I also do agree with you it will be good for you when he is out of the home for some hours daily so you can have a breather. Same here but with reversed roles. I chose to marry someone who is disabled and to move to where he already lived. Fully knowing that when I have an ordinary 8 to 5 job I will be drowned and crushed in all that unimportant stuff he is talking about all the time just to hear himself talk, as soon as I get into the door. So my personal solution was to keep my job in my hometown that means prctically get up at 4 take train at 5 be at work at 9:30, work till 4 pm and commute back home again. Much better for my own sanity that way, lol, and my commuting time is the best of the whole day. lol. [book1962]